Power of Now - People

Just a quick note to the previous blog, I am much happier now and not once today have I thought about Liam. It is very weird but I haven't. I suggest that if something in your past is bugging you, please do what I did. It helps you a great deal. I also found a quote from one of Sherry Argov's book which I was reading just after I had finished my last blog and she states 'A woman who doesn't care that much, doesn't have to be responsible for someone elses happiness'. What she is saying that when you are happy and focused on yourself, men find you more attractive as they know they don't have the pressure or responsibility for making you happy, you just do it yourself.

Anyways back to what this blog is about:

People can come and go in your life, people can become good friends, acquaintances and possible relationships. The power of now is simple. Whatever task you do, focus on that task. It is the same with people. When in the power of now you take that person for who they are in that moment without judgement otherwise that would bring you in to past and future thoughts. Also about the good and bad things they did in the past or think they would do in the future.

Obviously you will find people you don't mix with or they don't mix with you. The reason people do this is because they have a past and future judgement about you. You can't help this judgement but don't force them to like you either because that is soul destroying. Let them get on with whatever grudge they have against you and move on. Bit like the previous blog. You are in the power of now, they are not so let them deal with it and move on.

How I know about this whole situation is the people on my course. There was one particular event where I was on the bus. One of them I had judged for being too talkative and being slightly annoying. In this case I was thinking about this person and what she was like in the past and then judging what she would be like in the future. This changed completely when I was on the bus. I was in the power of now and usually what I would of done was sat on my own and not spoken to anyone as 'I thought they wouldn't like me', 'I have judged them in the past I wonder what they think of me' etc. Well I saw the same person on the bus and instead of judging and wondering and imagining all these things I thought this person was, I started to draw on the windows (as it was raining had condensation on it you know the drill). I drew this picture and she started to comment on it. I was having fun and not caring in the world and she was joining in. It started to become a game and both me and this person were guessing all sorts and it became really funny. So you can see where I am getting at with this point.


Another one could be that you think you have made a friend and then the next day it feels as though they don't even know your name? I got this as well, and instead of thinking ' They don't like me', 'What can I do to make them like me', Why is he/she talking to her not me'. Instead I would either join the conversation and if it was something of interest for me I would stay but if not there are like what? 100 other people or so you could speak to. If there isn't anyone, why not focus on a task you have been meaning to do or play a game or something. But one thing that should always be clear is DON'T LET IT WORRY OR PHASE YOU! That's when you go into future and past thought and if it is a thought that is really bugging you, then use the methods I have given in my previous blogs. There are plenty of new people you could meet as well, don't think you are stuck with a certain bunch.

In conclusion, what I am trying to say is lots if not all people will come and go in your life, people will change, you will change. It doesn't matter if a friendship blooms or fizzles, it doesn't matter if a relationship blooms or fizzles. Like I said you have to be selfish in life. Don't people please, it may work sometimes (especially in a job for a good reference) but as a person it is very dangerous.

So when you meet a person for the first time, second time, when you meet a friend, a boyfriend. Just be yourself for one, don't judge and if it phases out, get up on your feet and move on. Enjoy that person for who they are, not what you think they are going to be like or what they did in the past. There is no head space and time for that. If you enjoy yourself around that person even better! Unless it is really bad and they can not be forgiven then that is an exception, but ask yourself, why they can't be forgiven. If it really is bad, then I guess so but just make sure you don't hold on to that particular thing that they did otherwise it becomes a horrid obsession and fills lots of head space again, you could even get ill from it!

Always do the past and future thought exercises in my previous blog if someone is getting to you. I did it about Liam and I feel tons better!

Thanks for reading,
Naomi