Power of Now - Writing, Therapy and Excuses

WRITING: Ever since starting a blog, I have felt much better about myself. I had a comment from someone that 'this was the most pointless thing they have ever read'. With this comment, I looked at it and thought - it may be pointless to you but to me it has helped me a great deal.

THERAPY: This blog in particular has been almost like a personal diary that I am posting online. Yes it would be nice if other people were getting help from it as well, but most people will have already been through what I have been through, so yes, to them this blog is not for them.

It is good to get feedback and I totally will accept good and bad because either way, it shows that 1. People are reading it and 2. People are commenting on it.

EXCUSES: Let me tell you a story:

I live in a house with four other people. One of them left and was in charge of the bills. She said that she would sort out the TV licence and pay it. Few months later after this roommate moving out we kept receiving letters from the TV licence company saying that we still haven't paid our TV licence. I found this odd because she had said she had paid it and said that she had also sorted it.

Another couple of months later, we still had letters come through. Eventually I phoned the TV licence up and said has it been paid? and they said no. So instead of getting angry with the person who should have sorted it, the best way to get anyone to do anything is to:
1.Explain the situation
2.Even though they are asking for a fight about it, you keep calm.
3. You merely explain to them through facts to get past the excuses they are telling you.
4. Don't opinion-ate the situation, in other words don't call her nasty things because you are irritated that it hasn't been done.
5. Once you have got through all the excuses you eventually come up with the solution.

So in conclusion by doing all of this I am now going to sort out the bills, along with her giving me my money back and a friends as well as her own share.

Problem solved without any bitchiness or it getting ugly.

Thanks for reading,
Naomi

All you have to do is ask!

I have been very shy when it has come to asking questions. However mostly everyone you ask is happy to help.

Questions are very powerful things and if asked to the right people, you are more than likely to get a good answer.

Never be afraid to ask questions. You may feel stupid or that you are not allowed to ask it but who knows until you try.

I have been struggling with a few things on my course and havent had the courage to ask my tutors questions as I thought they would be too stupid but they are more than happy to help. Thats why they are there!

You will get better marks and if you ask the right questions and you follow through on their answers then you are garunteed to get a higher mark or the answer you are looking for.

Keep being curious and act upon it once you have the answer.

Thanks for reading,
Naomi

Power Of Now- One door closes another one opens!

It is a bit ironic that one of the musical numbers I am doing is called doors.

Following on from my previous blog on being rejected. Yes I didn't get the song I wanted. Yes I am only singing as ensemble and I am in 4 musical numbers out of 24. This however doesn't mean that I have been rejected. Okay maybe a little but I need to think of what went wrong in the audition and actually whether this could benefit me in the long run.

AUDITION: I wasn't prepared as I could of been, I didn't have the right footwear. I could go on but I would rather not. Basically all in all I don't actually like the musical that much, so why am I stressing that I didn't get anything when I don't even like it to begin with! We are strange human beings!

OTHER OPPORTUNITIES: Because I am not in it as much, I know that I can focus on my other modules a lot more and also focus on getting the small parts done well rather than having a lot and doing it badly.

When one door closes, two doors open.

Thanks for reading,
Naomi

Power of Now - Being Rejected

Yes you thought it went well, yes you thought you were the best, yes people tell you that was really good and then the same person gives you a bad grade! hmmm...

Rejection and the mixture of the power of now. I think when you get rejected you need to ask yourself why? Plus you need to think how could this be an advantage?

Really think about your options and what could benefit you in the long run and what couldn't. Sadly I think Uni will benefit me in the long run and ever since I have come to Uni it has been a constant struggle. I have not enjoyed it, but on the plus side, it is helping me prepare what a cruel bitch Musical Theatre can be, rejection and above all it is helping me gain my skills in dance and singing, not so much acting which is a shame.

Tonight I am going to see whether this course is worth being on and then stick with that decision.

Thanks for reading,
Naomi

Be More Prepared

If something is worrying you why is it? Deal with the situation before its too late. Then you don't have to worry about it and can use your thinking space for other things.

I was worried that I did not have enough time to work on things. I made a timetable for myself and I found that I had a bit of spare time! I was also spending my free time watching mindless TV when I could have been working on my songs, dance or whatever it is I needed to do even the washing.

If some thought crops up constantly, then maybe it is a sign to get something done about it. You will feel so much better after it and it will also be one less thing to worry about.

If like me however you are living with people who worry about things, gently remind them and then you don't have to worry about it. It is in their hands now!

If you are panicking about something someone else isn't doing, gently remind them or if that doesn't work, leave it for them to figure it out themselves. There is nothing else you can do. Don't stress about them not doing it the same day or the next eventually when they realize that most of their washing up has been there for two weeks and becoming moldy and possibly stinking the place out, they will eventually do it and realize also that you are not a push over!

If worse comes to worse however you can always put the washing up in a bin bag and put it in their room, maybe that will give them the message. What I am trying to say is, don't let other peoples responsibilities become yours and don't worry or threat because it is not your concern, it is theirs. If they have a brain and take in to consideration that they need to do that specific task, then they will do it. If not, you know never to live with that person again!

Thanks for reading,
Naomi Procter

Power Of Now - Assessments and Risks

So at University my course is amzing. It fufils all my needs, is really interesting and I couldn't have asked for a better course.

Only problem with it is there is not enough times to do modules. Basically I have three modules that I am assessed on.These are an essay, a vocal assessment and a production. Due to our schedule being so busy with other things, I am not sure whether we have a lot of time to do a lot of stuff. I  have missed several extra lessons (that we do get attendance forms with, meaning we have to attend them), because I just dont have the time what so ever to work on my modules which in my opinion are more important.

To resolve this issue I am going to write a timetable and see where I can practice and when. See when I am free to do each module and whether they fit around each lesson.

I will let you know my results and discuss them with you. If something is worrying you get it sorted and assessed!

Thanks for reading,
Naomi

Power of Now - People

Just a quick note to the previous blog, I am much happier now and not once today have I thought about Liam. It is very weird but I haven't. I suggest that if something in your past is bugging you, please do what I did. It helps you a great deal. I also found a quote from one of Sherry Argov's book which I was reading just after I had finished my last blog and she states 'A woman who doesn't care that much, doesn't have to be responsible for someone elses happiness'. What she is saying that when you are happy and focused on yourself, men find you more attractive as they know they don't have the pressure or responsibility for making you happy, you just do it yourself.

Anyways back to what this blog is about:

People can come and go in your life, people can become good friends, acquaintances and possible relationships. The power of now is simple. Whatever task you do, focus on that task. It is the same with people. When in the power of now you take that person for who they are in that moment without judgement otherwise that would bring you in to past and future thoughts. Also about the good and bad things they did in the past or think they would do in the future.

Obviously you will find people you don't mix with or they don't mix with you. The reason people do this is because they have a past and future judgement about you. You can't help this judgement but don't force them to like you either because that is soul destroying. Let them get on with whatever grudge they have against you and move on. Bit like the previous blog. You are in the power of now, they are not so let them deal with it and move on.

How I know about this whole situation is the people on my course. There was one particular event where I was on the bus. One of them I had judged for being too talkative and being slightly annoying. In this case I was thinking about this person and what she was like in the past and then judging what she would be like in the future. This changed completely when I was on the bus. I was in the power of now and usually what I would of done was sat on my own and not spoken to anyone as 'I thought they wouldn't like me', 'I have judged them in the past I wonder what they think of me' etc. Well I saw the same person on the bus and instead of judging and wondering and imagining all these things I thought this person was, I started to draw on the windows (as it was raining had condensation on it you know the drill). I drew this picture and she started to comment on it. I was having fun and not caring in the world and she was joining in. It started to become a game and both me and this person were guessing all sorts and it became really funny. So you can see where I am getting at with this point.


Another one could be that you think you have made a friend and then the next day it feels as though they don't even know your name? I got this as well, and instead of thinking ' They don't like me', 'What can I do to make them like me', Why is he/she talking to her not me'. Instead I would either join the conversation and if it was something of interest for me I would stay but if not there are like what? 100 other people or so you could speak to. If there isn't anyone, why not focus on a task you have been meaning to do or play a game or something. But one thing that should always be clear is DON'T LET IT WORRY OR PHASE YOU! That's when you go into future and past thought and if it is a thought that is really bugging you, then use the methods I have given in my previous blogs. There are plenty of new people you could meet as well, don't think you are stuck with a certain bunch.

In conclusion, what I am trying to say is lots if not all people will come and go in your life, people will change, you will change. It doesn't matter if a friendship blooms or fizzles, it doesn't matter if a relationship blooms or fizzles. Like I said you have to be selfish in life. Don't people please, it may work sometimes (especially in a job for a good reference) but as a person it is very dangerous.

So when you meet a person for the first time, second time, when you meet a friend, a boyfriend. Just be yourself for one, don't judge and if it phases out, get up on your feet and move on. Enjoy that person for who they are, not what you think they are going to be like or what they did in the past. There is no head space and time for that. If you enjoy yourself around that person even better! Unless it is really bad and they can not be forgiven then that is an exception, but ask yourself, why they can't be forgiven. If it really is bad, then I guess so but just make sure you don't hold on to that particular thing that they did otherwise it becomes a horrid obsession and fills lots of head space again, you could even get ill from it!

Always do the past and future thought exercises in my previous blog if someone is getting to you. I did it about Liam and I feel tons better!

Thanks for reading,
Naomi