Power of Now - Writing, Therapy and Excuses

WRITING: Ever since starting a blog, I have felt much better about myself. I had a comment from someone that 'this was the most pointless thing they have ever read'. With this comment, I looked at it and thought - it may be pointless to you but to me it has helped me a great deal.

THERAPY: This blog in particular has been almost like a personal diary that I am posting online. Yes it would be nice if other people were getting help from it as well, but most people will have already been through what I have been through, so yes, to them this blog is not for them.

It is good to get feedback and I totally will accept good and bad because either way, it shows that 1. People are reading it and 2. People are commenting on it.

EXCUSES: Let me tell you a story:

I live in a house with four other people. One of them left and was in charge of the bills. She said that she would sort out the TV licence and pay it. Few months later after this roommate moving out we kept receiving letters from the TV licence company saying that we still haven't paid our TV licence. I found this odd because she had said she had paid it and said that she had also sorted it.

Another couple of months later, we still had letters come through. Eventually I phoned the TV licence up and said has it been paid? and they said no. So instead of getting angry with the person who should have sorted it, the best way to get anyone to do anything is to:
1.Explain the situation
2.Even though they are asking for a fight about it, you keep calm.
3. You merely explain to them through facts to get past the excuses they are telling you.
4. Don't opinion-ate the situation, in other words don't call her nasty things because you are irritated that it hasn't been done.
5. Once you have got through all the excuses you eventually come up with the solution.

So in conclusion by doing all of this I am now going to sort out the bills, along with her giving me my money back and a friends as well as her own share.

Problem solved without any bitchiness or it getting ugly.

Thanks for reading,
Naomi